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* Is living in a Blended Family or a Stepfamily “more than you bargained for?”

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Blog Archive Article

Step Dating

2008-10-22

Step Institute

Step Dating is a new phrase coined to capture the experience of individuals who are dating with children in the mix. By this I mean, single parents dating, singles dating single parents and also pre-committed couples one or both of which have children. Although dating is not as serious an undertaking as getting engaged or decided to join forces and become a new stepfamily (or so one would think) it does come with it’s own set of complexities. For single parents, when choosing a partner, there are many considerations around finding someone who could be a suitable stepparent for his/her child(ren). And then there are questions with regards to: when to date and when to introduce the children to a new partner. For singles dating single parents, the big question is: Can I see myself having a relationship that involves someone else’s children and even more important, do I want children in my life at this point or any other point? These are not simple questions, nor do they come with simple answers.

This is also a very important issue for our times. With the increasing divorce rate among both first marriages as well as subsequent ones, there is a greater likelihood that anyone of us could find ourselves either dating as single parents, or dating a single parent at some point in our lifetimes. Knowing some of what to expect could be the difference between relationship success and disaster, not to mention the repercussions for the little ones involved.

I would love to hear from any of you who find yourself in this situation called Step Dating right now, or anyone who is contemplating a dating relationship that involves children. Do you agree that it is more complex than other relationships and if so what has been your experience? What are some of your most pressing questions in regards to having a relationship while either parenting yourself, or having a relationship with your partner who has children? What do you do when you are really interested in someone, but are not sure you have what it takes to balance the needs of your partner’s children with your needs in the relationship – then what?

I welcome any and all comments and questions. We are providing a Free Teleseminar on this very topic in January 2008. To learn more, please click here. In the meantime, let us know your thoughts on this timely issue.

 

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